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“Self defence is important. Crime rates are low here, but it’s a good skill to have. Like swimming,” Arthur nodded. He had seen his fair share of criminals and victims to understand how much simply not knowing what to do could cost. “But fitness is a good reason to participate in it as well. Cooking is also like that. Not necessary, considering the amount of food available here, but still a good skill to have,”

Arthur’s father had been the one to teach him cooking. With his father’s work it wasn’t easy for him to be home for some meals, and he had to learn how to feed himself. Valerie had contributed to his skills as well. He hadn’t had much of a chance to cook for anyone besides himself recently.

“Sports are not for everyone,” he agreed. “And football is definitely not for everyone. It’s not a very difficult game to understand at the basic level. Two teams want to get the ball into the opposite goal. They get very angry about it.”

He realised then that he had made a joke. Odd. Not something that he did very often with people he didn’t know. But good for social impressions, he assumed.
 

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Valli genuinely didn't think he'd ever need it, but that was the trick with self defense: You didn't often think you'd need it. Sometimes it caught you off guard. Sometimes you were just minding your own business, and then an otherwise stable patient was coming at you.

It hadn't really happened with Valli, but he'd had some close calls.

Valli was so focused on taking the whole thing seriously that he very nearly missed the joke, his grin widening when he finally caught it a few moments later.

"Aside from that, I... read. I want to say reading is what I spend most of my non-work time doing. Fiction, non-fiction... I read a bit of everything, now."
 

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"I have to read a lot for work," Arthur replied. While he had always read books, he had never considered it to be his hobby. Well, at this point in his life he reads more case law and legal journals than real fiction and nonfiction books. He wasn't very sure if books that were necessary for his work counted as a hobby. But at least it was better than nothing.

He paused for a moment, taking a sip of coffee to disguise it. Something he learned from the mock trials he did in University. What did people talk about in conversations? Work, weather? Maybe family? That was not something he could talk about.

Best just to be honest.

"It's been quite a long time since I was expected to hold a conversation," he confessed, giving another smile. "I'm not very sure what to talk about."
 

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"Well," Valli said, "thankfully my job gives me a bit of a leg up. Making conversation is a sizable part of my job."

To varying degrees, anyway.

"We talked about hobbies. I suppose maybe just longer introductions? There's plenty I left off my profile just to avoid saying too much in public, but I'd say we're getting along pretty well, so..."

Valli paused, the smile still on his face as he considered.

"We've already done names. I work as a therapist, and have for more than a decade. I have my own practice, but I've recently started taking patients directly up at the school. The work is a bit more inconsistent, but it lets me see more patients overall, which is nice. I live with my..."

Here Valli paused, once again caught as to what he should call Gask. Boyfriend? Boyfriend felt strangely childish, and implied a lot of things he didn't like.

"My significant other. I'll sheepishly admit he's the only non-work social interaction I get on most days, and having him around is what encouraged me to get out of the house and try and make more friends." Gask hadn't really pushed him, but Valli felt the pressure anyway. He didn't want Gask to feel like he was Valli's only social connection.
 

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“That’s a good thing for him to do. Friendships outside of romantic relationships are important,” Arthur commented. While it’s important to be close to a significant other, it’s also very important to have platonic friends. This was something Valerie had insisted on, and he had followed it to the best of his ability. Of course, at this point he didn’t have a romantic relationship or any real platonic friendships, but he was working on that.

He was working on a lot of things. Most of them are taking some time.

“I work in the city. I have my own law office, though I’m not sure how much of an office it is, given that there’s only two of us that work there. Generally I specialise in criminal defence, as I was trained as a barrister in the UK. I’m also able to do basic things such as wills, property contracts, and the likes,”

People generally got bored when he spoke about his work for more than a few sentences. The issue was that it was probably expected for him to start talking about his family at this point.

“I live alone,” Arthur offered. He frowned inadvertly as he considered his next options. “I don’t have any... living family members? Or significant others.”
 

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So he had no one, to put it less than tactfully. In a lot of ways that had been Valli's life, and he'd been fine with it. It was only the introduction of Gask that had changed things for him, and that had been a complete coincidence. Random chance.

He hadn't talked about his family though, and it seemed only fair, so Valli quickly added that.

"My mother and sister both live on the island, but I'm not close with either. Half-sister, technically. I see them on major holidays, and otherwise not at all." Which was a stark contrast to so many on the island, who had no family but desperately wished for some.

"You have a partner at work? Another lawyer?" Valli asked. It seemed like safer, less serious territory.
 

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"Not all families are so close. It's good that you still see them, though," Arthur replied. He had known too many people in his university days who would rather spend all winter in the city than to return to their broken homes. Hearing acquaintances in the family law field speak about their previous cases sometimes made him thankful that he had a good relationship with his father, despite how short of a time he managed to spend with him.

But again, 30-odd years is more than what many other people got.

"Yes. Another lawyer. Barely really a lawyer, actually," he said, giving another smile. "He's 24, freshly admitted to the bar, and he told me he spent a few years at the academy. Theo Bishop. Good kid."
 

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The island was a mess when it came to families. Almost no one had a whole, complete family. The entire idea of the nuclear family was rarer on the island that unicorns. There was a spattering of single parents and a mountain of orphans, and if Valli had been a more jaded person, he'd have credited all those dysfunctional families with letting him afford the life he lived.

"A junior?" Valli asked with a quirk of his eyebrow. "I considered that. Taking on someone fresh out of college. Eventually I'll have to retire, and someone will have to take over the practice." There he was, talking about work again, but work felt good and normal. It consumed his life, and he couldn't just avoid it.

"I assume you're doing the same thing?"
 

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"That's important to have a successor. It's not something I worried about back in London, because there were always young people coming in, but here it's different," Arthur commented. He took another long sip of his drink. Sometimes he did miss London, though he knows that it'll be almost impossible for him to continue on should he move back.

After all, he had spent so long here that it had essentially became home. Though for most of his life, he never did have a concrete idea of what home really was.

"That, and to convince myself to do something other than work," Arthur confessed, grinning and averting his gaze to the floor. This wasn't something that he should be embarrassed about, but he felt a little self-conscious regardless. "It's not working so well."
 

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An issue of scale. The island could be a bit lopsided in its distribution. More students then adults it felt like a lot of the time, and considering? It was a genuine possibility. Lots of students completed their schooling and then went home, back to the communities that had sent them. To the narrow reality. To their packs. To their covens.

"How relatable," Valli said. "Mine's doing... I don't know, a bit better. We're here, aren't we? Talking. Like normal people who definitely didn't abandon their social circles the moment they graduated school."

Valli sure had, and he suspected Arthur had as well.

"You should give yourself more credit. Trying is what matters. We can decide to put the effort in, but we can't decide how others react to us."
 
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