Healing Begins Here

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Eein wouldn't stop him, the whole situation had already damaged his pride, he was willing to listen.

"He'd....they....," his dad was a fighter and a hunter, his mom was an intelligent mage, yes he knew what they'd say. The young dragon would look down. "They'd....fuck....they'd say that I couldn't of done anything...that running was the right thing for me."

"B-but....doesn't mean that's true..," he'd say, not really believing it. He felt the need to blame someone, the person who'd caused it was dead, dead before he could even seek justice, so his blamed turned inward.
 

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Aeron sighed and resisted the urge to pinch the bridge of his nose on his helmet. "That is what I figured you'd say."

"What you are dealing with is called survivor's guilt. The notion that somehow, even just the act of you being alive somehow places the blame of your parents' deaths on you. But consider for a moment, Eein. Your parents undoubtedly loved you. Can you honestly say that in that situation, they would have rather you had die instead of or alongside them?"

And then the slightly harder thing to hear. It usually was. "And do you thin that what you are doing is fair to yourself or them? That blaming yourself is really the best way to honor and remember your parents? The more you focus on this, the less focus you give the good parts of the life you had with them."
 

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Eein didn't say anything, he wasn't sure if he could. Everything Aeron said made sense, even if a part of him was struggling to accept it. The young dragon would look down, his emotions being a mixture of guilt and shame.

"The memories.......the good ones seem a lot farther away sometimes," he'd say, admitting the truth about it all.

"My parents, they did everything for me, I just wish I could have done more." Of course he couldn't have done anything, he was just a kid.
 

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"And that is a perfectly natural thing to wish, Eein," Aeron said, leaning back a bit in his chair. It felt like they were making some kind of progress, but he didn't want to jump the gun too much.

"I think it might benefit you to focus on those good memories. Write them down if you need to. Go back to those writings when you're feeling disconnected from them. I do that myself, from my time in my other home. But above all, try not to blame yourself. Beating yourself up won't change the past. But moving forward with intent can drastically shape your future."
 
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